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I am bitch and all that come before me

 I am committing to finishing bell hooks this week, I want to start Giovani's Room by James Baldwin. So I am reading bell hooks and it according to me that while I have heard and understood what 'self actualized' means I only know it by my context clues  definition  and not the textbook definition.   Self actualized: means realizing and fulfilling your unique potential, creative abilities and your personal desires. (Coined by Kurt G.) Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a conceptualization of needs  that motivate human behavior. I needed to write this definition because I wanted to talk about what I am reading and I did not want to discuss without knowing what I am talking about.    "Young women want to embrace the "hard bitch" image because it keeps them from having to confront the pain that comes when females are pain that comes when females are punished for choosing to be self-actualized and successful."  What we do think, are we embracing...
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My weekend + What are 3 things I want to accomplish this week?

 This week is a new week to start fresh:

  1. Do my hair. I am doing boho faux locs
  2. Clean my apartment like a realllll deep clean
  3. Cook or meal prep every day so I am eating a home cooked meal and continue to work out


I do not have much to say today. I had a calm weekend where I literally watch movies all day yesterday and today. I am on my last movie of the day so I will list the movies I watched:
  • Grown Ups 2
  • Prince of Egypt
  • Vertigo 
A very random selection however I will say I am a big fan of Alfred Hitchcock. I love his show and I have watched The Birds, Vertigo, Psycho, and Rear Window. I will try to watch all of his movies if they are on streaming services. Anyways I did not have much to say today. I just wanted to make sure I typed something. I also wanted to discuss.....what I am looking for in my next boyfriend (hopefully husband one day)......  I will only list 10 traits to make sure I am not writing too long. (Also I am nauseous) 
  1. Kind 
  2. Intellectual 
  3. Patient
  4. Good conversationalist
  5. Friendly
  6. Nice smile
  7. Handsome :-)
  8. Ambitious
  9. Witty
  10. Interesting (meaning has hobbies, well read or likes to read, board games, word games, video games niche hobbies lol )
I guess I am thinking about this because of a conversation I was having with my friend Dorothy (who I adore by the way, she's the best). She wants a boyfriend and she went out on a nice hiking date with a guy and she sounded liked she had a nice time which I am glad. I was telling her since she really never had a boyfriend what pieces of advice I would give myself if I had to start my relationship journey over:
  • LISTEN (not passively listen but actively listen ensuring that you are giving your partner that well deserved attention and space to feel heard)
  • Do not expect them to know you straight away (if they do something that triggers you tell them do not let it harbor away and react in a passive aggressive way)
  • Create space for intimate moments 
I think those three things are super important for me in my next relationship and I just want to make sure she is not afraid of emotional vulnerability. I guess I can be a little honest here....I think a good start to a friendship for any relationship. (I try to catch all the typos but forgive me if I do not blog half the time I am writing this without my glasses on and do not zoom in enough to see the words I just typically let it flow out yes typos and all lol). Idk well hopefully I can be friends with someone and then build that romantic connection. I guess that is all I have to say also I am at the end of Vertigo and it is a little ooky spooky lol. Vertigo is considered Alfred Hitchcock's magnum opus.

"I felt like sleeping for five years but they wouldn't let me."  - Charles Bukowski



P.S I would like to read more books by him and by so many other people. I wish I had more time to read leisurely. I wish I had more time to dedicate myself to my passions of reading and creating (whatever that is). Also I wish I a table space to do watercolor.  

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